A JA Girl Exposed : In Her Own Words.
A relationship should be based on trust. We often hear how important this concept is to a successful relationship. Usually that trust leads you to feel secure enough to discuss anything, explore anything that will allow you to add ‘spice’ to the relationship, and this often includes sending explicit pictures. However, this practice intended to be an intimate act between lovers has been turned into a public spectacle, intended to extort and embarrass Jamaican females. This gave birth to the website JA Girls Exposed. One of my followers on Twitter has found herself “exposed”, pictures she sent to a guy she was dating posted on a website for all the world to see. By all accounts, she is popular on Twitter, a stunning young lady, comfortable with her body and her sexuality. She wants you to hear her side of the story, to tell you about her personal anguish and sense of betrayal. We will call her VC. Here she is, in her own words.
VC : I was having this conversation with someone and they were saying people expect me to talk about it (the website and her pics) and I don’t seem to be doing anything about it. Well I have a few things to say.
Q : Do you want me to use your name?
VC : I’m not too sure I want to use my name yet, only because of my boyfriend, but I wanna ensure people get exactly how the story went and how betrayed I felt and how the “administration” was extorting me.
Q : Do you know who sent in the pics?
VC : A few pics on there was sent to one specific person. The rest they hacked into my account and took. I was locked out of my msn account for 3 weeks.
Q : Why did you send the pics to that ‘specific person’?
VC : I was dating him, figured it would be fine.
Q : Tell me about the extortion.
VC : A person called me claiming to be the administrator of the site stating that he wanted 20 grand in two days or else more exposed pics and videos would be put up of me. I would be the next feature on the site, that was week before last Saturday morning. I reported everything Sunday to the organised crime division, made a statement and then went back on monday to sign and review my statement.
Q : So they contacted you for the money before putting up the pics?
VC : There were pics of me on the site already, yes. Pics that were posted on the site already including some new ones(normal ones of me that I had on my FB or I would post on my BBM)
Q : You spoke to the dude who you had personally sent some of the pics to?
VC : I no longer talk to this person, I have no contact number for him.
Q : Did your friends mock you? Or were they supportive?
VC : Friends is such a loose word… sigh. My real friends didn’t mock me. The people who follow me on Twitter did though. I saw everything that was said about me. Even though I wasn’t tweeting my Twitter was open, I saw everything.
Q : How did your boyfriend react?
VC : I think he was disappointed. He hasn’t been on the site. I asked him not to and so we are fine. I was mainly scared to lose my relationship with my boyfriend because of this so it took me a few days to tell him about everything.
Q : Tell me about your feelings of betrayal.
VC : I felt betrayed because some people I called my friends where laughing at me and also said they knew that was going to happen to me and that made me sad for four days straight. I would just randomly burst into tears because it was on my mind heavily. I was extremely emotional and depressed.
Q : Do you feel people have been hypocrites about this sending pics thing? If yes, why?
VC : Yes, because I’m sure those who are being hypocrites have sent pics already, they just haven’t been caught or “exposed”.
Q : What do you think about the women who support the “exposing” of other women?
VC : It seems rather ridiculous to me .. Its just how women are though. They want to see others fall.
Q : What would you say to the admin of the site and guys who keep posting the pics to Twitter/FB?
VC : I would say, no one deserves this..I wouldn’t wish it on anybody ..it’s not a joke, it’s my life. I don’t appreciate how people have been judging me based off the pics and videos that was posted of me .
Q : Do you think you’ll ever send another nude pic in a relationship?
VC : I’m scarred from this situation, I highly doubt that I will, or even take one of myself
Q : What would you say to girls considering sending nude pics?
VC : They should think before they do, some men are not to be trusted with things like that. Some men are not mature enough.
NB : The website in question has since been taken down.
Personally, I’m saddened by this website. It only demonstrates a larger problem of the value we place on our women. It is reprehensible that a man would betray a woman’s trust in that way. I’m not going to even attack the creators of the website, I’m going to take issue with those of us who sent these pictures to Facebook and Twitter, and who turn it into a public spectacle. Most of us have sent a nude pic, consider if it was your life being ruined and destroyed, how would you feel? Every time you move to repost or share one of those pictures or that website address, consider if your sister, mother or aunt was on that site? Where is your respect for women? This is somebody’s life. All those girls have a life, and you are contributing to wrecking her life and reputation. In my estimation, you are just as bad as the creators of the site and just as bad as the person who violated her trust and confidence. Food for thought.