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Yendi’s Pregnancy : A Wedlock Controversy


News broke late last evening on Twitter that former Miss Jamaica World, Yendi Phillipps, is with child. My timeline immediately erupted with commentary on Yendi’s bundle. Reactions ranged from surprise and congratulations to absolute judgement and condemnation. The judgement arose from the allegation that the beauty queen is unwed, and therefore the child was conceived out of wedlock. I took strong exception to this. I’d like to share my thoughts.

One young lady had the audacity to call Yendi an “uptown slut”, while others remarked that they “expected better of Yendi” and my question was simply, who died and made you God? When did we all find our moral compasses? I have a hard time understanding how we came to the conclusion that Yendi is a slut when so many of us were born out of wedlock. What does that say about our mothers? Would we be willing to extend the ‘slut crown’ to our own relatives bearing children out of wedlock? One of my followers made the point that so many of our mothers had to do things that would make a prostitute blush just so we could have a decent life, and yet we want to judge Yendi. This entire episode carries the stench of hypocrisy and demonstrates how quick Jamaicans, living in glass houses, are to cast stones. It appears to me that we have set one standard for Yendi, and another for ourselves and our relatives. How many of you are having sex out of wedlock right now? Are you prepared to condemn yourself if you become pregnant? Perhaps I shouldn’t be surprised, after all this is the very society that is made up of people who ‘bun out’ in public what they do in private; just attend any street dance or party and listen for the ones who “buss” the loudest blanks. We see you.

The condemnation of Yendi put my mind to the times before former Prime Minister Michael Manley acted by passing legislation to give status to poor people’s children – a time when children born out of wedlock were regarded as ‘bastards’. This was a period where psuedo moral dictates relegated some citizens, children at that, to a lower status than others. That was the era of children being declared illegitimate and therefore having no rights to their father or any hope of an inheritance. In essence that was what happened lastnight on Twitter; we put Yendi and her unborn child in a category for undesirables. The suggestion was given that there was something inherently wrong with having a child out of wedlock, I’m yet to see the reasoning behind that. This is the year two thousand and twelve, no one needs to explain or justify the relationship status of their parents, and Yendi certainly doesn’t owe anyone an explanation about her relationship status and the co-relation to her pregnancy.

The reality is that marriage is not a state everyone wishes to take upon themselves and there is nothing wrong with that. It does not make that person any less than a married couple. Marriage is no longer the exalted institution of ancient times, it is now a union of convenience in many cases, a transactional affair used to secure financial or immigration benefits and in some cases arranged as a tool to take away the rights and dignity of women. This union is now so relative and varied, can we really elevate it as a standard and judge people for not meeting that standard? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting all marriages are worthless, but there seems to be a growing tide against the proper use of the institution. We just need to look at the divorce rates all across the world or ask Kim Kardashian or Jennifer Lopez. When did marriage become so important to us? The same ones who preach that “man fi ave nuff gyal and gyal inna bungle” – we are living hypocrites, and it is high time we stop it. I’m watching carefully to see how the media reacts, it is my sincere hope that members of that fraternity will not buy into this nonsense of the child being conceived out of wedlock. Frankly, it is a non issue.

Yendi has distinguished herself both locally and internationally to much acclaim; she is a young, bright, talented Jamaican who has done this country proud. The contents of her womb is nobody’s business. Congratulations Yendi!! I wish you a happy pregnancy and every good wish as you carry your bundle of joy into this world. For those who rose so quickly to condemn, ask your Mommy if she was married when she had you, I’m almost certain 1 in every 2 persons will hear “no”, does that make your mother a slut? And are you nothing but a bastard? Oh look, your glass house has shattered. This is why you shouldn’t throw stones.

116 responses

  1. Couldn’t have said it better

    April 23, 2012 at 10:20 am

    • fol notinterested

      i agree …well said

      April 23, 2012 at 2:55 pm

  2. Royalty

    Well said!!!, let ye who is without sin cast the first stone

    April 23, 2012 at 10:51 am

    • it ruff..smh… ppl jus always a condemn

      April 23, 2012 at 2:08 pm

  3. anika

    Them ppl here just love chat all the best with ur little bundle of joy Yendi and big up yuhself daniel Payton have a bro or sis on the way

    April 23, 2012 at 11:05 am

  4. #SHAT! you should send this to yendi!

    April 23, 2012 at 11:14 am

  5. Jermane

    You said it best, this is a non issue. Now a REAL issue is when the hell am I gonna find out what happened to Prince Zuko’s mother!?

    April 23, 2012 at 11:24 am

    • Anonymous

      LOL I would love to know the answer to that question too:(

      April 23, 2012 at 2:16 pm

    • LMAO. Jermane? LEAVE.

      April 23, 2012 at 2:26 pm

  6. The way ppl a hot up dem head over the story why them never breed her when them see her (I missed the chance to..lol) ? Some of these ppl should never go out their way and judge knowing what things their moms did to make them have a better life of sorts…good read, and gwaan yah Yendi, push out de baby a your life, your choice

    April 23, 2012 at 12:08 pm

  7. colette

    very good article

    April 23, 2012 at 12:25 pm

  8. walla105

    Some real shit right here (y)

    April 23, 2012 at 12:47 pm

    • dean

      Well said! I like it……:)

      April 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

  9. christine

    Good Job. Well said. As a mother with a child out of wedlock I applaud the article. No man has the right to judge. Point one finger but remember 4 point right back at you.

    April 23, 2012 at 1:24 pm

    • I appreciate the commendations, thank you.

      April 23, 2012 at 2:33 pm

  10. Wyngchie

    Applauded! My heart was swollen with pride at this. Couldn’t have said it better!

    April 23, 2012 at 2:05 pm

    • Thanks a lot :) I appreciate it.

      April 23, 2012 at 2:31 pm

  11. #justsayin

    It is never right to judge someone, as we become judgers of men we sin, additionally i have the utmost respect for Yendi and what she has done for herself and Jamaica. However i cannot agree with you on this issue of having a child out of wedlock as a “non issue”, this is just wrong of you to say. For everyone of us who have disregarded the institution of marriage and have conceived a child out of wedlock shame on us and yes shame on my mother. We should never believe that because it is the norm it is right or because everyone does it its ok to also do it. Whether persons take marriage for a joke, sham, convenience or however else persons put it, it is still an institution ordained by God and should never be discredited regardless of how persons abuse it. I cosign with you on your point where you basically sated that Yendi owes no one an explanation but we must also be mindful of the fact that she is a public figure and whether she considers herself a role model or not and i’m sure she does, persons are looking up to her, that is something she simply cannot escape. Similarly, when you lend service to your country and you become a public figure you cannot escape scrutiny, one would say its what you signed up for. In spites of this I congratulate her on her pregnancy and i do wish her all the best.

    April 23, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    • If we going to talk abt shame on Yendi for getting pregnant then we need to talk abt sex in general. anytime have sex risk pregnancy. As far as I see a self sufficient person is free to do as they please. We have no right to set the standard for anyone elses life especially when these standards are religiously based.

      April 23, 2012 at 2:28 pm

    • I’m not sure I agree with you that marriage was “ordained by God”. Marriage pre-dates Christianity. By your logic, public figures are not entitled to a private life, I have to disagree with you on that. Yendi is entitled to her private life, and private choices. Free from judgement and condemnation.

      April 23, 2012 at 2:30 pm

      • If one believes in the bible, then one believes that Marriage is ordained by God and God and Marriage were around before Christianity. All that being said I agree with your article. Anyone who calls themselves a Christian should not judge anyone and as such should not Judge Yendi. Whether or not Yendi represented Jamaica well or otherwise, she has the right to make her own decisions

        April 23, 2012 at 11:20 pm

    • Kim

      Now you talking @ justsayin, this is what the writer doesn’t get, that she is a public figure, and most of these young ladies needs someone to look up to, and she was that figure. This writer sounds bais and emotionally connected.

      April 23, 2012 at 9:47 pm

      • Kim, let me put to rest your concern right now…I am not “emotionally connected” to Yendi Phillips, I have never even met her. Now to the matter of young girls looking up to her. Yendi is a former Miss Jamaica World, a runner up in Miss Universe, she runs a summer camp, she’s a tv personality, she has a Masters degree I understand, she is an EXCELLENT role model. Her pregnancy did not occur at a stage of her life where she has achieved nothing. She is locally and internationally recognised as a smart and beautiful woman, he pregnancy has not changed that. If anything, she has taught girls to go after what they want in life BEFORE getting pregnant. Yendi feels she is at a place to bear a child, that’s HER business, not yours…or anyone else’s. And you best believe it doesn’t disqualify her as a role model.

        April 23, 2012 at 9:53 pm

  12. women and men who cannot care for their offspring and continue to create irresponsibly pose a MUCH bigger problem to society than this.

    April 23, 2012 at 2:30 pm

  13. Tyrone Barnett

    hello, I do not know you but if I were close to you now I would shake your hand. I want to know why as a people we are so Hypocritical of each other those who are condemning her are doing so out of envious jealousy, there is no rule in the book that says a former Miss world can’t have a child out of wedlock or a relationship. my question to these “badmind” people would be have you looked in the mirror recently? maybe if you do you would see a major disappointment. congrats Yendi and whoever the father is all the best to you both and raise your child with dignity.
    Is Yendi a bigger disappointment than a “drunk Ambassador?” and is she getting pregnant out of wedlock worst than someone becoming her judge? leave the girl alone she chose.

    April 23, 2012 at 2:40 pm

    • Thanks man :D I really appreciate the feedback

      April 23, 2012 at 4:05 pm

  14. Irrespective of what you or I might think the truth is she owes no one any explanation. if she is to be judged let her judgement come from one who is perfect. since i am sure you or I are NOT perfect let us just be happy for her and wish her all the best on this new journey she is entering into. as the editor has pointed out… if we live in glass house we should not throw stones… it will shatter our own walls and that’s all there is to it.

    CONGRATULATIONS Yendi and all the best on your journey.

    April 23, 2012 at 2:53 pm

  15. julius

    ikr! am sure many of whom saying in judgement and whatnot not even born inna wedlock! more power to yendi and her lil beauty coming up.

    April 23, 2012 at 3:12 pm

  16. julius

    i mean..seriously? what percentage of Jamaican populace is born in wedlock? kmt! i cant stand imposers. gosh!

    April 23, 2012 at 3:14 pm

  17. Christina

    I think some people are disappointed because as a role model to the young people of Jamaica especially women, it is sad that she has reduced herself to a mere baby mother. A lot of people did not expect this. I thought she was with Asafa. Such a shocker!

    April 23, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    • Island Girl

      how does carrying the title of a wife make you any better than someone who is just a baby mother? at the end of the day this young lady is going to be mother and whether shes married or not has nothing to do with the kind of mother she will become because in the end that is all it comes down to is that she will be a MOM and she will have a child and this child will be HERS not the whole damn world…and until this foolishness started last night i didn’t realize that u had to have a certain image or some sort of a ticket to enter motherhood..people need to get over themselves and keep out of people lives..And Yendi if you read this you go girl you be the best mom they’ve ever seen and you love that with all your heart and soul..before we congratulate this young lady, )who has made our country so proud) on the one of the many happiest moments of her life we just turn around and find any sort of nonsense to talk.. congratulations yendi and MR.Editor you article was well said and i just hope that these ignorant people get over themselves and see what you are trying to say .
      ~*One Love*~

      April 23, 2012 at 8:27 pm

    • Kim

      Lmao @ Christina , i thought so too. Big up Tami Chynn for making a constructive move.

      April 23, 2012 at 9:49 pm

  18. Tweeta

    Its not about slut or no slut whoever said dat was rude, but Yendi came out saying she was a married b4 kids kinda person, so persons looked up to her, mayb those who where born out of wedlock she was driving force so nw dat she has fall like all the others there is no one else to luk up to, wen asked if she was in a relationship wid the guy she refused strongly and now couple months dwn di line she cmes in 17 weeks preg, I’m not judging or ntn but it cme across as surprise for many as many persons were not aware she and the runner had broke it off, wen ur in di public eyes u ave 2 b careful of the life u live & guess ppl was just expecting more 4rm here

    April 23, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    • gong

      well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      April 23, 2012 at 8:18 pm

  19. babydonalee

    I could not have said this better! I cnt cast no stone cuz I’m a bastard child! Let sex be free n cum out of the ppl them life!!!

    April 23, 2012 at 3:47 pm

  20. PAUL JONES

    People just pissed that its not Asafa haha

    April 23, 2012 at 4:00 pm

  21. Cheryl

    Well I’m surprised, I got the feeling at one point from one of her interviews that she was not anywhere near ready to be a mother. But hey, I guess “Chino” changed her mind!

    April 23, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    • Kim

      Lol

      April 23, 2012 at 9:40 pm

  22. Was gonna make a rant on this myself you know but i decided against it but you say basically what i had planned to say and then some. Good job ute

    April 23, 2012 at 4:15 pm

  23. Nikki

    Great article… thumbs up.

    April 23, 2012 at 5:00 pm

  24. Delone

    well said very good article, these pple need to judge themselves before others, n wat does not concern them, they all need to leave it alone!!!! Congrats Wendi all the best! hope is twin mek it bun di neaga dem!!!

    April 23, 2012 at 5:12 pm

  25. Racquel

    I’ve been commenting on statuses and cursing ppl out all day!! Couldn’t have said any better!!!

    April 23, 2012 at 5:36 pm

  26. JodiAngelou

    I absolutely love this blog. Very well said.

    April 23, 2012 at 5:44 pm

  27. Shena

    Lol. Now you say it, I too want to find out what happen to Zuko’s mother. Enjoy yuh pregnancy yah Yendi and to HELL with all de people dem weh a mek up noise like empty barrels. Bad mind dem bad mind.

    April 23, 2012 at 6:08 pm

  28. Sophia

    Well said! Jamaicans are such hypocrites. Very good article. Congratulation Yendi! Welcome to the wonderful world of motherhood.

    April 23, 2012 at 6:17 pm

  29. Zaxis

    II Like the article very much but i have to disagree on one thing….even tho its 2012 aaahhh Marriage is still the one that God gave us as a gift apart from life and it would be better to have a while being married…thats God’s plan and he never changes… so keep that in mind….however folks the couple are having a baby, thats no ones business ah mean if u happy u happy if not then shut up and Leave Asafa outa the whole thing, They separated and now they are perhaps happier apart as she is now happy with her lil baby thats on the way…urr life cant be that dull…just leave the folks alone

    April 23, 2012 at 6:47 pm

  30. Ricky Pascoe

    Well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What she does is her business… when will we all as Jamaicans stop being hyprocrites… there is so many other things that is going on in the country that we should all speak out against… are we saying that a child that is born in wedlock will turn out better and have more morals, values and decency about themselves than those born out of wedlock? Are we saying that each child that is born out of wedlock will not know right from wrong? We are too quick to use the bible to condemn and beat down our fellow Jamaicans, Im sure it wasnt written for tht…. When will we stop using our so called christian values and morals to judge others instead of looking at life with an open mind, we are all god’s children…… and yet we want to be a 1st World Country… how will we ever get there when in 2012 we have such one track minds, this is certainly not getting us anywhere as a country and as a people… this year we are celebrating 50 years of independence so why dont we act as if we are an independent state….. we should all look in our back yards and clean it up before we want to clean up someone elses…. I was born out of wedlock and I am proud (I am a proud Jamaican) and I make no apoplogizes for that or to anyone because my mom and by extension parents went and had us and make me and my other siblings proud of ourselves and made sure that we believe in ourselves no matter the situation….. BIG UP USELF YENDI ON YOUR NEW BUNDLE OF JOY… BEST WISHES TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ON THE NEW ADDITION… A NEW BORN BABY IS ALWAYS A MIRACLE AND BRING FAMILIES TOGETHER…… I hope all those people who are condemning her will take a look at themselves in the mirror (as what Micheal Jackson song says “Im starting with the man in the mirror)… look at yourself before you all point fingers cause the big finger is pointing right back at you

    April 23, 2012 at 7:19 pm

    • Well said bro. Thanks for your thoughts.

      April 23, 2012 at 7:45 pm

  31. Tamdriene

    Amen.

    April 23, 2012 at 7:38 pm

  32. temoy roache

    Someone commented tht she is too much and how it is tht she turned Asafa’s offer of bearing children down.My point is Jamaican especially are too judgemental and act as though we ourselves have not been in certain position its as though we feel better about our selves/shortcoming by hightlighting wat we call one elses mistakes and we damage eachoda instead uplifting eachoda.It’s noones business if she is pregnant out or in wedlock.She has proved herself a success in many ways and this is the greatest of all

    April 23, 2012 at 7:42 pm

  33. paula

    Well said I agree with u wholeheartedly. Congrats girl.

    April 23, 2012 at 7:43 pm

  34. I want to see and hear the reactions when the baby comes. All yuh ago hear is, “Di baby cute eeh?!” People can be so fickle. Look how many women have baby out of wedlock. Why is Yendi any different?

    April 23, 2012 at 7:52 pm

  35. shelly davis

    Yendi live yuh wey yuh luv dats ur business if u wan to get pregnant these people let everybody business there’s and congrats on your newborn honey I’m a fan of yours love u same way.

    April 23, 2012 at 7:55 pm

  36. Well said,,,, jamaican r too stupid and illiterate,,, they r curious about other people business while there own r spoiling.

    April 23, 2012 at 8:03 pm

  37. Tammi

    Mr Editor well said….. All of us have more pressing issues at hand that we need to take care of but yet still we find time to see other people’s business. Yendi has blood just like everyone else she is human

    April 23, 2012 at 8:08 pm

  38. Nats

    Well said !…..

    April 23, 2012 at 8:29 pm

  39. Marjie Young

    I want to add my little bit to this controversy! I dont care how people live their lives; however the writer of the piece is either pretending or genuinely does not understand why she was called ‘uptown slut’, etc! I am only trying to explain, in case he/she is really that simple! She was ‘rumoured’ to be in a relationship with someone…we all know who he is! She herself stated that she and the baby father-to-be started going out in 2011. She is 4 months pregnant now that means even if she and the father-to-be started going out on January 1, 2011, they have been together for less than a year! Get it?

    April 23, 2012 at 8:42 pm

    • Karen

      What exactly is the point of this? How many of us wait for a year to have sex with the person we’re dating? I’ll wait…

      With that said, you do know that if people are having sex there’s a possibility that they may become pregnant, no? Notwithstanding condoms and other contraceptives, they are not 100% safe.

      So I ask you, are you/would you be a whore for sleeping with someone under a year of going out with them?

      April 23, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    • Kim

      I agree with you, and I think this writer really doesn’t get it, and is being bais. Maybe he or she is a relative.

      April 23, 2012 at 9:36 pm

    • Meeka

      Ummmmmm……..Marjie? Why do u think Mr. Editor doesn’t get it?
      His article is well articulated. He has shared his thoughts on the judgement currently cast on Yendi: (her pregnancy in less than a year of dating coupled with the fact that she’s a public figure). Mr. Editors major point is (and I have to agree) WHO R “U” TO JUDGE (not you specifically but whoever is “judging”)??????? Does that sound like somebody who doesn’t get it? I could be wrong but I beg to differ.

      Now let’s look at the judgement. Is it wrong for her to have sex in less than a year of dating? Well how many of u “judges” (an oonu family memba) r doing just that? Ok…. Is it cause she’s a public figure? Well let me ask…..would it be not sooo bad if she wasn’t a public figure……. Mr. Editor has merely expressed his opinion on the hypocritical/double standards being used to judge her.

      My take:
      Public figure = public scrutiny ( yuh jus cyaan escape it). How yuh deal is the most important thing. A public figure needs a thick skin, as one thing is sure; criticisms will come.

      In addition, as each person is entitled to their opinion albeit illogical (can I say stupid?), so is Yendi entitled to live her life as she sees fit. Wether she is studying, dancing, vying in a competition or having aphrodisiacs and getting knocked, up is really none of our damn business…..is it? Her life really bears no consequence on yours….. does it?

      And to the “judges”: you be the role model for ur child. Model the behavior you would like them to emulate. And I do pray it is not one laced with hypocrisy:) In any event a ur life….. My opinion really doesn’t matter.

      Big up Mr. Editor.

      April 25, 2012 at 5:09 am

  40. Monique

    I personally endorse this article… I am rather disgusted at the level of ignorance and negativity by some Jamaican people! Back in the 70s Bob Marley impregnate Cindy out of wedlock – yet we all love & praise Junior Gong and relish on his contribution to Jamaican music. So why are we chastising, criticising and condemning Ms. Yendi Phillips for her decision to be an unwed mother?
    Yes I was born out of wedlock to a mother that was 16 & a father that was 15 years old respectively. Nonetheless, they have both been there for me and did a phenomenal job and I love them both for that – that is important. So having a child out of wedlock is NOT THE ULTIMATE SIN (Frankly, it is none of the Ten Commandments)!
    On the other hand, I choose to be married first prior to starting a family – long story short, I am a single mom, with that being said, a marriage does not guarantee stability nowadays. Personally, I believe it is better to be loving and dedicated parents as oppose to getting married then divorce 72 days later.

    April 23, 2012 at 8:42 pm

  41. anna

    Wow…if it’s nobody’s business then i’m curious as to why it needs to be announced across social media and the public media

    April 23, 2012 at 8:46 pm

  42. nice

    April 23, 2012 at 8:52 pm

  43. Poochi3

    Exactly! Couldn’t have said it any better! It sickens me how when anyone share their good news with people, there is always a batch who cya congratulate. Dem affi seh “afta she nuh married”, “dat nah go last” or “she and him soo lef” Wah so hard fi ppl be happy fi dem one a anoda! Congrats Yendi!!! Ur baby is gonna be so adorable! Christmas or New Years baby, def a blessing

    April 23, 2012 at 8:54 pm

  44. Yanique

    Ppl are always quick to see what they perceive as wrong in someone elses life but fail to see the wrong in theirs. As they say misery loves company. This is a Great Artice! Love it!

    April 23, 2012 at 9:14 pm

  45. Kim

    Some of your points are valid, some bais ”one sided” which I disagree with, the rest is just plain rude with no regards.

    April 23, 2012 at 9:33 pm

    • Oblige me and point out where I have been “bias one sided” and where I have been plain “rude with no regards”. I’ve argued the case as I see it. U’re gonna have to actually raise points for me to respond to.

      April 23, 2012 at 9:38 pm

  46. Coleen

    The main reason people took issue with this pregnancy is because she is a public figure. And apparently for some, a role model. Unfortunately those in the public eye are held at a higher moral order than the rest of us mere mortals. It just comes with the territory of being a public icon so to speak. She just as to take the good with bad and keep it moving. In a few days no one will care.

    April 23, 2012 at 9:38 pm

    • I do not accept that argument. We need to rethink that position that says we put public figures on a higher moral pedestal. They are humans, and when we elevate them that way we are only setting them up to fail. Yendi’s private conduct will in no way affect the good work she has done on behalf of this country. Her pregnancy is a beautiful thing, and should be celebrated as such. Not condemned and scrutinised.

      April 23, 2012 at 9:43 pm

  47. krk

    I only wish she was mine and that was my child anyway since its not i just want to say congrats Chino and Yendi all the best guys

    April 23, 2012 at 9:40 pm

  48. Beth22

    Yendi made d choice to put her business out in the public wid big official announcement so she jus hav to tuff it out an tek d good wid d bad. I may b one of the few Jamaicans who was born in wedlock and plan to start my family after bein married. And i hav also made the choice to abstain so im not exposed to the possiblity of pregnancy. so let me b the one to speak since by ur standards i wudnt b living in “a glass house”. proud of Yendi for not terminating but mi nah lie it look a ways dat she deny d man and den mek baby announcement. likkle disappointed jus like i wud b in anyone but we cant remove the fact that she is a public figure. and she was reeli a good role model for younger girls and im sure evn she wudnt want most girls to follow in her path at the moment. All the very best to Yendi and her new fam. Jamaica goin love u same way.

    April 23, 2012 at 9:55 pm

  49. kk

    Kim. B-I-A-S… Laawd it can’t be a typo if you say it twice -.-

    April 23, 2012 at 10:41 pm

  50. Huge Fan of Avatar: The Last Airbender.

    LO!L just had to scroll all the way down to lol at Jermane’s comment. I am dying to know what happened to Zuko’s mom too.

    April 23, 2012 at 11:23 pm

  51. Willing to stand

    I agree with you wholeheartedly, and I am also adding or rather asking a question. When you get married you have sex, what do you do when you are not married. I have to ask as the hypocrites in our society seem to think that is two different kinds.

    April 24, 2012 at 12:06 am

  52. Christina

    I don’t know Yendi, but mi feel hurt and disappointed. I envisioned her with a real, distinguished and influential person, not sum raggamuffin …. Someone that’s on the same level as her. Like an Obama etc, if it was Asafa then it wudnt be so bad. Har pregnancy nave ntn fi do wid being a good role model, but I think Jamaica expected more. Mi disappointed badddddddddddd! Nah lie.

    April 24, 2012 at 1:31 am

    • Donae

      Statement below was directed @ you

      April 24, 2012 at 2:30 am

    • yaya

      this is not a matter of yendi having the right to make her own decisions or that she has achieved so much prior to this situation. it is basically the fact that she is posing as a youth advocate teaching young ppl to abstain from sex, yet she is the one having a child out of marriage…..i dont really care whether or not she is pregnant, all im saying is practice what you preach and if u are going to be a role model to young ppl, live the life of a role model. if we as mothers and jamaicans on a whole want to decrease the whole teenage pregnancy rate, we as adults have to start by showing the young ones that having children out of marriage is wrong. the bible speaks about marriage, fornication and all the sexual immoralities. I AM DISAPPOINTED AS WELL…… chino at that too? oh please yendi. the ppl in the lime light always try to make it seem as if the rough neck gangsta men are those that ppl should avoid yet still she has found herself with one……i got pregnant out of marriage while i was in college and i was ashamed of my decision. if i had a chance to do it all over i would have and i would have waited. so get a clue yendi you’re suppose to be a role model, live that life. mr author good job but honestly u r bias….teach the youth about right from wrong and not the rights of me or u but the truth that comes from the bible the guide to life and stop making it seem as if it is all good that she has gotten a child out of wedlock. then again its our views and as u said yendi has a right to make her own decisions so i guess we have a right to voice our points without u tryn to justify ur actions. # just saying

      April 24, 2012 at 7:46 am

      • “…the truth that comes from the bible.” – that is a very very worrying statement. What exactly is “truth”? And isn’t it “true” that the bible’s dictates are not absolute facts? How is it right for christians to force what they believe on others outside of the christian jurisdiction? And how dare you judge Yendi for her choice of partner? The same “truth” you speak of from the bible tells you clearly not to judge, where do you get off saying who Yendi should or shouldn’t sleep with? We need to worry about the state of our own lives, Yendi’s “sexual immorality” is between her and her god, whoever she perceives him/her/that to be.

        April 24, 2012 at 8:39 am

    • carlene

      leave the couple nothing to be disappointed about i think chino is a real man a man is just a man judge urself before u judge another they r both on the same level in life time u leave the people them business and go take care a yours there is no difference between asafa and chino they r both equal in the sight of the most high the most important thing is this baby come in the world out of love and stay in love love conquers it all alot of u who a chat is bad mind unuh bad mind cause unuh cant get pregnant leave the couple alone big Yendi and Chino with the newborn

      April 24, 2012 at 2:26 pm

  53. Donae

    Your approval is not needed Yendi is a grown woman and is free to choose her partner .This is none of your business. Leave Yendi and allow her to live her life.

    April 24, 2012 at 2:28 am

  54. Cleon Willis

    Wow!!! Finally someone understands. My mother had me out of wedlock, but I would dare not say she is a slut and I am certain that I am not a bastard. At least Yendi knows who her baby daddy is. Congrats Yendi.

    April 24, 2012 at 5:52 am

  55. everhotsimmo

    Could not be said any better

    April 24, 2012 at 6:25 am

  56. Sulu

    Sorry to disappoint you Christina, but why do you say Chino is a RAGGAMUFFIN? He is an artist, and his father is a rather distinguished one too. Now I am not saying the public has no right to be a little disappointed if we are taking into consideration her being a role model, and according to the bible: being married before having kids is the appropriate thing to do. Truth be told. a role model should not sell the idea that having a baby daddy is a good thing; otherwise girls who look up to her will see having a baby daddy as soething ok. However, she is 26 going on 27, and has accomplished a lot, so frankly speaking her pregnancy is no ones business!!!!

    April 24, 2012 at 7:12 am

  57. Nicole Marshall

    Congratulations to yendi ..all u people who are discriminating go pick the beems out ur own eyes n look a life ….n stop stress the woman

    April 24, 2012 at 7:40 am

  58. Elliottness

    Is the Powell legacy more valuable than the McGregor’s, the child will become a singer, model or sprinter with frequent groin injuries.

    April 24, 2012 at 8:07 am

  59. Well said. Who r we to judge

    April 24, 2012 at 8:49 am

  60. There are many ideals that we all hold on to and we somehow think that everyone else is also bound by these. Its the ideal to be married before children but it doesnt always work that way and thats fine. It is not ok for people to think she is less of a role model or person because of who her child’s father is … Im sure many women have men with not so desirable qualities and attributes, just as many men are stuck with less than upstanding baby-mothers. It is not right to sit and chastise the young lady for choosing to have a child. Would we prefer the alternative of her terminating her pregnancy just to soothe the masses? Thats just stupid!

    This may not be the ideal situation … it may not be what the world wanted for Yendi, but its what Yendi has chosen for herself. She is the one who has to be at peace with her choices. None of us know what she has had to go through to be able to accept her situation, so it really isnt anyone’s place to criticise her choices. I hope she is happy and all goes well for her.

    April 24, 2012 at 9:37 am

  61. Opinionated

    Yendi announced to her over 144, 000 fans so she should have been prepared for the same amount of responses good or bad.
    What it reveals though is a class issue, Yendi is percieved to be the rich pretty national treasure based solely on what she looks like. What was expected is that this very pretty brown girl was entitled to a wealthy athlete, business man etc. Hell she should have taken Obama away from Michelle, or Donald Trump from Melania.
    Yendi is no different from the average Jamaican woman. She could be “brown and pretty” so til.
    Take her off that damn pedestal!! She chose Chino because he is HER type and in HER league, thats HER standard. She can also wear the baby mother title like so many other women in Jamaica. She is not special.

    April 24, 2012 at 9:41 am

  62. jodian

    Well said I totally agree with every point you just made… Hush yendz this is what happends when u have a public life but its your decision whether you want to disclose your private affairs with the world … Congraz on your pregnancy and you will proudly advertise your baby’s last name lol

    April 24, 2012 at 10:02 am

  63. Kadeen

    So Mr. Editor your gonna use some parts of the bible to state your opinion but knocking out the rest of it? talk about double standards. Now I read all these comments and I wasn’t going to say anything but oh well. Even as a christian no one is perfect and not even Christ himself forced anything on any one he merely spoke of his father and what he believed in, and all now can say he judged no one right? yet when a Christian gets up and do the same thing you hear how that christian is judgmental and forcing things on other people and them might be doing even worse, who is the judge there. Anyway what gets me the most is that people are acting as though this is the best thing ever to happen and nothing is wrong with it and actually taking out the biblical (and dont you dare disrespect the facts of the bible based on your opinion or beliefs of it) aspect of it, of which about 90% of the Jamaican population believes but yet run gone to church early Sunday morning to seek blessings and protection and such. Once again talk about double standards. Now that is for the people, as for Yendi she said it quite appropriately that is for her and her God, and knowing how i feel as a christian I am not condemning Yendi cause i feel strongly that people will make mistakes and should still be given pardon as long as its not abused. I show love for Yendi as I always do, but its not fair to be acting or pretending as though nothing is wrong based on 1. the biblical teachings (which im sure Yendi would base her spirituality on, she even said it in her answer at Ms Universe which she lost for and dont pretend like we dont know it when she mentioned God) 2. based on how Yendi carried herself spoke about her spoke of her standards and stood up teaching to young people about abstinence and so on. And why is it people saying stay out of her business if others say they are disappointed but its ok for them to say congrats better yet why are people pretending its ok but they wouldnt want the same for their children. Talk about hypocritical. I understand that my beliefs and others are different which is why i do not push it on others, but from a worldly view do not have a moral standard for role models which they should carry out because they have put their selves in it and accepted that position and then when they decimate that character and because we love them we say hey its ok and beat down on others who are disappointed, but its not ok for others who are not in that position, cause i know if it was your daughter and she was in that situation a mass of disappointment would be there. The real pretenders and hypocrites out there are the ones having a new years party. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Just my two cents

    April 24, 2012 at 10:12 am

    • Not only are your beliefs different, they are incorrect. Firstly, the Bible is not a fact. It is a compelling piece of literature, but it is not a fact. In fact, it is perhaps the most disputed work of literature in history. The dictates set down in the Bible are matters of faith – we have little to no proof to corroborate the claims made, so how is it a fact?

      Secondly, if my daughter got pregnant AFTER achieving all that Yendi has achieved, I would have no problem. Every seems to be ignoring the fact that Yendi has accomplished a great deal for herself. This pregnancy is by no means a set back for her or disappointment. What’s more, if Yendi is not a practising christian, how can Christianity hope to extend its jurisdiction over her life? I cannot and will not accept that. Everyone has the right to live and lead the life they choose, if Yendi hasn’t accepted the dictates of christianity and the moral precepts contained therein, that does not make her any less of a person. Thanks for taking the time to share your views – I appreciate it. :)

      April 24, 2012 at 10:57 am

  64. ana henry

    cograts yendi,ur old enough to make ur own decision. dnt listen to the hypocrites bcz they themselves might not even know that they were born out of wedlock. they are like crabs in a barrell,each pulling down the other thats why they can’t think intelligently or become better jamaicans. congrats again.

    April 24, 2012 at 12:16 pm

  65. Kadeen

    Mr. Editor people resort to that level of reasoning of the bible because it does satisfy their life style and retort to one’s belief, so lets not go into theology and scholarly articulation because that is way beyond this. What I am trying to say is do not bash people for feeling disappointed based on their perception of a person who has indicated such. You do not see anything wrong with it do not force that on others who are disappointed by it, because then you would be doing the same thing that you are preaching against. Everyone to their own opinion stop bashing people because it is not like yours. I am disappointed not only because of my beliefs which I have stated but mostly because of the standard that Yendi has spoken of and has set and I hope all the best for her and the pregnancy and the lovely baby which she may have, what is done is done, no one is perfect i agree but dont expect others who look up to her in a kind of manner not to feel that way. And it goes for everyone else it sounds retarded to be indecent to someone who is disappointed and it even sounds more retarded when they say people need to go live their own lives and glass house and what not. In one breath you and others say do not judge yet in the same breath you are judging others. To say someone is disappointed by an act does that mean a person judges? this does not speak to the ones who discriminate her in awful ways and such, but hey, that is also their opinion. If Yendi is true to her fans as they are to her then just as she would accept their applauds and all of that then she should be true to the fact and accept that she has disappointed some as well.

    April 24, 2012 at 1:16 pm

  66. Kadeen

    Oh and Yendi is not a practising christian as to what we know but she does mentions facts about God in her life which entails that she has some beliefs in that area as she stated in the interview “it is between her and her God” which i totally agree with and do not push down the christian concept on her back which i clearly stated (dont know why you saw differently) my feeling of disappointment was based on her expressing some of that connotation such as marriage before kids and what not as well as the standards that she herself had set. like i said in the midst of disappointment all the best to Yendi and I hope everything works out well.

    April 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

  67. Christina

    Yendi is not the average girl. She was Ms.Jamaica and runner up in Miss Universe. People hold har at a very high standard. People look pon har as a role model so now that this happen not everybody a guh embrace har as the average girl weh have a child out of marriage. She is/was running a campaign bout safe sex, abstinence etc suh there goes the backlash. She shudda just kept it secret until later in the pregancy but I guess she didnt want the public fi think she a hide sumting. when she announced har pregnancy, she open har self up for scrutinity cuz it’s not private anymore; its everybody’s business now. When I see Yendi, I see class, poise and grace… that’s how she potray har self and she went against the odds so now sum pple a criticise her. She looked like a person who would get married and then have kids. Don’t think she is a slut or anything but just never expect this. Wish her n the baby the best but me very very disappointed. Dont really have confidence in she and chino relationship. Idk dem just nuh impress me, but dats who she love. Srry to say but best wishes to them anyway. Mi like how jah cure and tami chynn seal up dem thing, those are sum gud examples.

    April 24, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    • Meeka

      Christina Why yuh nuh just stop chat????? Bare crap a fly outta yuh mouth!!!! Omg!!!!

      April 25, 2012 at 5:24 am

  68. Boss Lady Yaneke

    Alot of ppl are saying She is role model hence she should not have fallen into the “baby mother” statistic. So, being a role model gives up your right to be human, make your own choices, live your OWN life?

    Conceving a child out of wedlock is not the social problem that affects this country. It’s parents (married or unmarried) that neglect their responsiblity and pawn off their kids on the state or leave them to fend for themselves. These children often times fall prey to the ills of criminal minds. Then these neglectful parents depend on ppl like Yendi to be role the models for these disendranchised youths and uphold all the seemingly ethical societal standards.

    Who is to say that she will not be a responsible and caring parent.

    As I commented on one social network – these ppl need to call the fire station immediately (and hope the truck arrives with water) to give them a good hose down bcaz them full of
    s#!+.

    All in all I agree with the writer. If yuh live inna glass house, dont throw stones.

    April 24, 2012 at 5:25 pm

  69. ketta24

    1. Marriage is not the ideal for everyone. Jamaicans need to get over this and stop assuming that 1) everyone is a Christian 2)that every christian is somehow a perfect human being (that does not exist) and those who condemn this woman, remember when you were either on the giving or receiving end of sex out of wedlock.
    2. The idea that because she is a public figure her ideals need to conform to any ideals. Chino is a public figure, and have some have pointed out a raggamuffin so why its a big deal for her and not for him to be having his second child out if wedlock (sexism in all its glory). The fact is this young woman has never sat down with any of her detractors to discuss her views on having sex outside of marriage if you are a strong, financially capable individual. She has been in some pageants some adds, she has smiled, shook hands and taken some pictures and answered generic questions about world piece, so let’s not be so high and mighty to proclaim we know her our to but our ideals that some of us don’t even ask of ourselves, unto her.
    3. And this is also apart of #2. How is she no longer a good role model? Because she 26 TWENTY SIX and having a baby, she has a career/finances and what seems like a supporting man and extended family. She not a teenager, a high school dropout.

    April 24, 2012 at 8:28 pm

  70. kirk

    all this and the question i have is who is the lucky one can anybody say or is it still a secreat any way wish u all the best on ur journey yandi

    April 24, 2012 at 10:40 pm

  71. Sinc

    Let me tell you Who Should Criticize Yendi……those who – Never had pre-marital sex, those who were born in wedlock, those never lusted after her, those who aren’t culturally bias nor racist, those who never aborted a child or paid to get some child aborted, those who know all about her – even her most intimate thoughts, those who’s family is perfect, those who’s career and goals out weighs hers, those who are sure that ‘their marriage is ordained by God’ and wasn’t just a means to an end and who really knows what marriage is really about, those who are sure that her (Yendi’s) child will not be the Prime Minister that will lead Jamaica to future success or be the scientist that will find an absolute cure for cancer, aids, etc., those who are without sin………….and by the way how could I leave this out …….. those to whom God gave His throne of Judgement………..p.s. and b4 u criticize my post, let it be clear that I am a practicing christian, was born in wedlock and also married!!

    April 25, 2012 at 9:10 am

    • Meeka

      Tenk u Sinc….. Yuh couldn’t seh it no betta!!! Dyam dunce bat some a dem. And who really “fit” all those criteria?? Some of these ppl need to just shut it!

      April 25, 2012 at 10:02 am

  72. Tisha Wilson

    here, here. How dare those who think they have the right to judge. Look at our population, check the statistical institute, internationally there has been a steady increase in single parent families. How many of you who were so quick to condemn have aborted many fetuses…you hypocrites. How dare you try to tarnish Yendi’s professional integrity with your ignorant and dull view on life. No wonder we regress as a nation. How many of you are involved in questionable relationships, how dare you. Thank you for this article and for sharing it. Yendi hold your head up high, you answer only to God. Human beings are hypocrites and they seek to destroy the good that is left in the social fabric of our society. We are too petty, we indulge in persons personal affairs ask them questions pertaining to current affairs, IMF, the budget delay and they will stutter. These are they who have no value to the growth and development of our society.

    April 25, 2012 at 4:48 pm

    • Moral and ethical

      When you put yourself in the public’s eyes you automatically give consent to lead with example and do what is deamed morally right. The youth looks up to you.

      April 25, 2012 at 6:15 pm

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  75. Fagan

    Couldnt have said it any better

    April 25, 2012 at 7:16 pm

  76. Floydie

    Excellent!!! This should have some persons thinking. Well said Mr. Editior. I think this post deserves a place in the star/observer/gleaner etc so all can see it.

    *Applause*

    April 27, 2012 at 6:54 pm

  77. rocky12345

    I agree Floydie…….Its an awesome article. Almost everyday there is a baby born out of wedlock, and no one complains cus we don’t know the people its happening to. Just becus she’s an icon doesn’t make her pregnancy wrong, its her life. And another thing, y everybody looking down at her becus Chino happens to be the father of her child….whats wrong with Chino?….. Look at Cindy and Bob Marley…..Give Yendi a break man, its not such a big deal.

    April 27, 2012 at 10:10 pm

  78. I wonder what percentage of Jamaican kids are born in Wedlock. How many persons who are close to us were married before they became parents? A person’s private life is theirs to live lets be concerned with the kids borne by those out of a job with no education or skill. These young parents will be okay IMHO.

    April 30, 2012 at 7:47 pm

  79. camvybz

    oh boy unu ago mad her she is like any other woman

    May 7, 2012 at 8:51 am

  80. Demitrie Phoenix

    U GUYS WHO DONT SEE THIS AS WRONG HAVE NO MORALS URSELF. There is a right way and a wrong way to do things. Its always best when a child is born under the security of wedlock, things dont always happen the way u plan it, but that’s the RIGHT WAY.
    *Fall in love with someone. Make her ur wife and vow 2 spend ur life 2gether
    AND THEN U CREATE A FAMILY AROUND THAT UNION
    That is why JA is like tht, y’all have no morals or social values, and thats y’all gonna continue to suffer down there. **THE FAMILY IS THE FOUNDATION OF SOCIETY**

    May 10, 2012 at 7:11 pm

  81. my2cents

    I just happen to stumble across this article and I just find it appalling at the reaction of Jamaicans when it comes to having children out of wedlock. Just looking at races/cultures around the world by far we are the only ones who “see nothing wrong with having children out of wedlock”. Jamaica is a predominantly Black country and again our Black children do poorly in comparison to children of other races who were born to parents who are married (just check the jails, social services, Universities). Sure enough a lot of us were not born to married parents (myself included) but we a wiser generations and more educated that our parents were. I would hope to see a change where more children were born to married parents than not!

    May 23, 2012 at 12:12 pm

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