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From Oral to Anal : The Changing Sexual Culture in Jamaica


By now, we must have all heard of the types of sex that are to be had. There’s vaginal, oral, and though many Jamaicans would rather it not be said, there’s anal. Increasingly, the Jamaican population seems content with exploring all three aspects of sex. In fact, I’m surprised at how many of my friends are considering the taboos. That is, oral and anal sex. I don’t listen to the Raga show, but based on comments I’ve read and heard, it would appear that his callers, and someone told me these callers reflect the general society, are dishing out “batty washes” (the phenomenon of using one’s tongue to stimulate the anus), actively digesting semen, passionately sucking on penises and salivating at the thought of a wet vagina.

I never understood or accepted the extent to which Jamaica was sexually liberated until I joined social media such as Twitter. I was literally stunned at how many men were just tripping over themselves to admit they enjoyed vagina on their faces or tongue. Not to be outdone, it soon appeared that every other girl was a fan of penis swallowing. I remember the first time I tweeted “Vagina : The Breakfast of Champions”, purely out of mischief. Imagine my shock when it got some 15 RTs. Such is the extent of our liberalisation.

 Where did this come from though? When did our sexually conservative society begin to morph into this liberal melting pot of sexual perversion? I don’t wish to offend anyone by calling these practices perversions, but in the context of our society, it kind of is. One answer says american culture. Yes, our neighbours up north have perhaps the most liberal sexual culture in the world. From them, we’ve gained confidence in sucking, licking, eating, swallowing, biting, exploring etc etc. You name it, we perhaps picked it up from them. I also believe that daggering as we’ve come to know and love it has lost it’s appeal. We’ve began to want more than the occasional “beat up” and “tump up”. Further, I think women, (Yes. I blame women.) have largely been the ones to suggest these perverse practices to men. Since the days of Adam and Eve, women have been leading men into taboo practices. They make it attractive and alluring.

 “You gotta lick it before you stick it!”

Those kinds of ultimatums. Backing us men into a corner and saying, you can’t have the vajayjay unless you taste it. Faced with this very difficult choice, most men give in and decide to dine in. Vagina once again becomes a bargaining tool. The funny thing is that there are some among us who still maintain the conservative stance in public, but in private they completely lose themselves in these taboos. While they will go the extra mile with their woman, they will never proudly admit these taboos in public. If you’re a ashamed of it, should it be something you’re engaged in? Just a thought.

I have the perfect example though. I’m friends with a particular couple. We’ll call them Jack and Jill. So we’re all lounging around, Jack, Jill, myself and three others. We’re discussing sex and Jack has had a little to drink, out of no where he exclaims “Jah kno Jill, yuh batty tight enuh” – Needless to say, the silence that ensued was the mother of all silences. Liquor had made him confess to engaging in anal sex with his girlfriend. I wasn’t sure what would have been appropriate conversation after such an admission, so I remained silent for the duration of the evening. You see my point though? Had it not been for the liquor, we would never have known.

The next time you go “bunning out” something you know you engage in just to impress the dude beside you, consider that he could be Jack. He could be the Jack who enjoys a girl’s “tight batty” under the quiet. He could be the guy that salivates at thought of vagina, he could personify the girl who enjoys swallowing penis. You think about that. Think very carefully about that.

So what do you guys think? What’s to be blamed for our changing sexual culture?

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28 responses

  1. This is true to some extent. I just don’t see a man being pressured to do anything unless he is weak willed, desperate, or had some thought or ideal of presenting oral in the first place. Well the social transformation will be interesting to see over the next 5 years. Oh and one more thing, if people are doing things they are ashamed of, to what extent will they go when someone tells them to perform any other action?

    July 20, 2011 at 12:12 pm

    • Weak willed and desperate? Perhaps. I think most men give in easily when it comes to sex though. Most rarely oppose the conditions. Then again, I suppose that’s desperation for real.

      July 20, 2011 at 12:52 pm

  2. i think its more a matter of exposure and experimentation that has propelled the change. the effects of access to information are very far reaching.

    i dont know that women prefer these “perverse practices” more than men but i do think women are more into sex as a source of their own pleasure rather than just to keep/please a man. so whatever can get them off will be what they ask of their partners. i like all forms of sex mentioned but i was never the one to bring up oral or anal sex. it was suggested by my partner and i didnt mind trying it.

    i think people should be open enough to new experiences but also be honest enough not to bash the practice. if you are going to be ashamed you probably shouldnt be doing it.

    July 20, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    • Oh, he suggested anal sex too? That’s odd. Well, I find it odd. And I do agree, we need to be honest enough to own what we do and not bash others publicly to feel good about ourselves. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      July 20, 2011 at 12:56 pm

      • Yeah most ppl seem to think that any man interested in anal sex would have some underlying homosexual tendencies. But I don’t agree

        July 20, 2011 at 1:08 pm

  3. Lioness

    bahhaha,I find it so funny. No one to be blamed, it’s just a change. Change in everything, and change is good yes?

    July 20, 2011 at 2:27 pm

  4. “If you’re a ashamed of it, should it be something you’re engaged in?” A question i’ve been asking some time now. Some men just gve into temptation or better yet, curiosity. I Think EVERY being is curious about these things. Some of them just make lines they won’t cross and some have no lines whatsoever.

    I’ve matured beyond judging a person based on their sexual preferences, even though im NOT comfortable with homosexuality im not homophobic. Also some people say if u have anal sex with women ur still gay cause bottom a bottom. I DON’T think so though cause its a female and they’re isn’t a crusty voice and a dick and balls swinging between her legs lol. It does however make you a “Battyman”…. just saying.

    5 Years from now this will all be normal everyday conversations among friends…. As for your friend and the “Batty Tight” comment, are you sure he wasn’t speaking of it’s firmness?

    July 20, 2011 at 5:20 pm

    • I don’t know if I agree with you on the “sex with a woman’s ass doesn’t make you gay” comment. I’d imagine the same pleasure a woman takes in getting her as stuffed is the same pleasure a man takes in getting his ass stuffed. So technically, it isn’t much different. On the other hand, I understand that she is a woman and in the strictest sense, homosexuality is sex between the same sex. IDK though. I’m still not sold on that idea.

      I think in large part, men realise the taboos are slowly becoming accepted, but some of us men are still afraid to admit that we like what we like. As to his comment about her batty being tight, IDK. It was too awkward, no one asked any questions. We left with our assumptions.

      July 20, 2011 at 5:56 pm

      • tamica

        I Dont agree with but sex but I diss agree with your comment it dose not make him gay cause he’s doing it with a female if you think about it that’s just like saying gay guys kiss other guys so its pretty gay when a guy and a girl kiss cause that’s the same feeling I’m just saying if alkaline like batty wash from a girl that’s his business and I Dont think ANY body should judge him cause only god can judge .

        June 7, 2014 at 9:00 am

    • chica

      Yea i agree with foxalot it could just be firmness

      July 20, 2011 at 5:57 pm

  5. Oh yeah….. I’d like to also partly take responsibility for people being more open about these things. *Bows*… pun intended…. Thank you!

    July 20, 2011 at 5:24 pm

  6. Voy

    This entire thing is kind of a joke. Was there any actual research done? These things aren’t just “out in the open” in America; there’s a whole difference between knowing that something goes on in certain people’s bedrooms, to that being openly accepted by the general public. Saying that something is a “perversion” rather than a “preference” is also offensive. What is so wrong with a man returning oral to his female partner? Plenty of women enjoy “swallowing penis”, and I doubt if your girlfriend suggested it to you that you’d reject her.

    Honestly, it’s awful that a man can expect from a woman what he won’t give to her.

    Also, about anal sex, as someone who is female, and has received it: There’s nothing gay about it. Anal sex happens to be the kind most used by homosexual men, however, the difference is that both partners don’t have to be male for it to work, as with vaginal intercourse. I don’t know why you have to think very carefully about what people enjoy in the privacy of their own bedrooms.

    There is nothing to be “blamed”, unless you view sexual openness as a bad a degrading thing. Then, I suppose you could blame the liberation of men and women from archaic ideals similar to the ones you seem to espouse. This liberation was likely caused by the realization that sex for pleasure and not for procreation is natural, and that neither men nor women should be criminalized for it; and are working towards that goal.

    So I suppose, in answer to the question, I blame COMMON FUCKING SENSE.

    July 20, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    • sweet daddy

      All this talk about change in culture is just a creeping compromise against our already decaying moral society…what i mean is, Saddom and Gomorrah didnt turn evil and perverted overnight, it all began the same way we are now..subtle acceptance of our perverted neighbours America..feeding on their garbage DVDs and porn sites has introduced and softened our taste to their liking..but just like Saddom burned so will we in time..am not being religious tho it seems that way but everything has its consequences and their is a limit to every evil because There is a God whose in charge and we cant just do as we please or we’ll just die like the trees

      July 26, 2011 at 12:29 pm

      • Wow. I don’t know if I’d go that far as to say God will punish Jamaica for the changing sexual culture. It seems an exaggeration and excessively religious to draw such a comparison or even suggest that Jamaica will “burn”.

        Thanks for your thoughts though.

        July 26, 2011 at 9:03 pm

  7. M Jai VonFurstenburg Makokha

    I believe there is an international change in sexual norms. The author refers to it as a liberation; however, to go as far as to call ‘new’ sexual activty perversions, I believe, is a bit judgmental.

    The best part of sex for me, as an American or a sexual liberal as the author would have it, is that what happens between me and my partner(s) is our business, however perverse (the author’s word) or conservative.

    Enjoying sex, in whatever form, is, I believe, part of the human experience. Think about it, we upgrade our computers when something better comes along. We do the same with our clothes, cars, phones, etc. Why not upgrade our sex in the same vein?

    July 21, 2011 at 7:35 am

  8. Nasylum

    Sir Editor, ur reasoning for y anal sex w a woman wud b gay makes no sense as u are addressing he pleasure derived by he person bn….. Probed? That’s not what wud make it gay, in my opinion. The pleasure one derives from doin the probing is what wud determine it. Men and women have lips on their faces. A man can enjoy kissing a woman but abhor the thought of kissing a man. It’s d same kind of body part. Is he gay then? U see my point now, yea?

    July 21, 2011 at 9:02 am

  9. Richard

    I don’t believe that it is America’s fault. No one can force us into accepting something we detest unless we find it in ourselves to accept it as right. And as far as sexual practices, we are free to do as we please as long as it is between 2 consensual adults. But the hypocrisy that exists astounds me. we shouldn’t bash people for things be do in the dark ourselves, that’s just wrong.

    July 23, 2011 at 8:20 am

  10. Neller

    “To each his own” that has always been my phrase i see people bunning out oral sex only to find out that behind close doors they are the said ones licking the cum from the penis or nyamming the vagina like it’s their last meal, i have no problem with that but anything you do you should be proud to admit that you do it. Of late what gets on my nerves is this new craze for oral sex hmmm i have no problem with it but like me I’m called lame because i always say i will never do it but how is that lame… because i wont do it? or is it because i refuse to run with what the mass is doing? BTW who are they to be calling me lame? And as for anal sex alot of people attach homosexuality to it but to me its just another way of pleasing your partner maybe the vaginal and oral getting boring so they decide to spice it up a bit by trying something new IDK but like i say “To Each His Own” i dont want anybody to fight my belief so i dont fight down anybody’s belief 🙂

    July 25, 2011 at 9:04 pm

  11. G

    lol, even tho i’ve never done anal or had it done to me :-p lol
    The reality is……….. its just another hole. Now, based on limited research tv, internet, etc.. MAN –> WOMAN (_x_) anal penetration; you dont just stick your dick in there after she’s taken a shit and i doubt i need to explain why.

    You use some sorta device.. a hose like thing/ squirter and flush the gunk out.. lol

    Once the filth is out of the way.. you lube her up and get to poking. Based on what i’ve seen this is either done via RIMJOB (nasty imho) or Lube.

    Based on what i’ve seen on late night cable.. some women say there is a spot deep down in there that creates great pleasure similar to the g-spot. And of course you can also poke her g-spot from the back.

    Point is: no need to be ignorant and misinformed.

    July 26, 2011 at 10:01 pm

    • Err. lol. #ThatAwkwardMoment you’re given a crash course in anal sex. lol.

      Well, I don’t think we were disputing the technicalities of it. More the morality. The correctness and whether or not it’s appropriate and legitimate sex.

      July 27, 2011 at 1:01 pm

      • G

        Society = Prude
        Correctness?!? How is it any worse than sticking your tongue in someone’s ear for example (opposite sex)? Experimenting with anal doesn’t mean shit; see what I did there 🙂

        If we’re talking about the bible it says the city was destroyed with burning sulfur because of homos. didn’t say you cant poke “her backside” lol smh.

        It (Bible) doesn’t say man and woman can’t do it, doesn’t say two women can’t do it.. as far as I know it says 2 men shouldn’t do it.

        Imagine if Jill was your mom and Jack was your Dad?! Think about that.. they aught to have taught u right from wrong… Your at the age where you can decide for yourself if its right or wrong.

        July 27, 2011 at 3:29 pm

      • Lol! I doubt the Bible would clearly mention every thing that is unnatural and sinful, so I think as humans we must interpret and understand. Now that you mention it, I don’t remember there being explicit reference to lesbians. However, in Corinthians (I think) the Bible does mention that homosexuals, which includes lesbians, would not enter the Kingdom of heaven. IDK. Bleh. 😐

        Anyways.

        My point is, the anus was never meant to accommodate sexual intercourse. It’s biological function is waste disposal. I think from that perspective, anal sex becomes unnatural and inappropriate even. We have ventured into unchartered waters in that sense. And I’m still maintaining that if we begin to accept heterosexual anal sex as “legitimate sex” then we have opened the door to accept homosexuality because we have accepted that there is legitimate and worthwhile pleasure to be had from the anus.

        We cannot excuse it by saying it’s a woman’s ass. The bottom (no pun intended) line is that it’s an ass. And it functions the same way, whether attached to a male or female. We would be creating a dangerous double standard & promoting hypocrisy of the worst kind if we accepted one and denied the other.

        July 27, 2011 at 4:35 pm

  12. Mr. Yow

    who determines “appropriate” sex?

    July 27, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    • I imagine that in the Jamaican context, it would be the society. No?

      July 27, 2011 at 12:55 pm

  13. G

    Oh ok, i see your point. But isnt issuing condoms to thousands of heterosexual men in prison just as hypocritical?

    “Oh we’re not promoting that kinda lifestyle, we just want them to protect themselves.”

    Whats your definition of legitimate sex?
    Man –> (_{}_) Woman ONLY?

    July 28, 2011 at 9:04 am

    • It is just as hypocritical, but I think in that case, it would be for the greater good. Since those men, who may get infected in prison, would soon have to re-integrate with society and may then spread this disease.

      I consider all types of sex “legitimate”. My problem is that males who decide to sex a woman in her anus are condemning homosexuals. So I’m just making the point that if we want to get really technical, the guy who is in a woman’s ass and the guy who is in a man’s ass is effectively doing the same thing…sexing ass. The same unnatural and unorthodox sex. And I’m not entirely convinced that because it is a woman’s ass then it ought to be excused.

      July 28, 2011 at 9:20 am

  14. PRK

    America is not sexually liberated. If you spend anytime there you’ll quickly learn the mentality of the average American is “violence good, sex bad.” If you’re basing your assumptions on Television programs and Films Which are usually set in big cities such as NY or LA then you’re being misguided. While those cities may be presented as being more progressive than say Kingston, truth is; there are so many people in those cities people tend not to to give a fuck about what the next man is doing. Because that would be a hell of a lot of wasted energy.

    Remember, America is a vast country and there’s the entire Midwestern, South and Southwestern regions to take into account; which, might I add, are VERY conservative. Sexual liberation is a much more European ideal. Moreover, if you consider 1980’s , early 90’s Dancehall Music such as, Mad Cobra’s “Flex” Shaggy’s “Boombastic” and Buju’s “Dickie”, “Leave di Glamity”, “Agony” and Spragga’s “Jack it Up.” Also, anything from Yellowman. Jamaicans for a LONG time have been expressive about their sexuality.

    Are the sexual acts diversifying? No. In my opinion, it’s more or less the fact that we are sharing this information more freely through the pseudo-non-judgmental veil of the internet. We can type in ludicrous, graphic sexual acts which we have engaged into twitter and not have twitter glare at us with a “what the fuck?” expression. Your friend “Jack” clearly just needs a refresher course in Understanding Social Cues, he may spend too much time ‘talking’ to his friend Cyberspace with it’s ‘anything goes’ persona.

    I was reading an article about how much porn and accessibility to porn has changed the American sexual landscape from the 1980’s till now and a man who was interviewed said “Cumming on a girl’s face used to be like throwing a man through a plate glass window – it only happens in the movies.” I’m sure the movies he was referring to had to either be purchased in some shady XXX area of a video store or viewed at some clandestine movie theatre. Thus, many people in an effort not to be “sketchy” probably were not exposed to such things as ‘facials’ etc.

    Now, we can get porn in our homes, whenever we want for FREE. All we need is a PC and the internet, this feat in technology has enabled us not only to be exposed to certain “taboo” sexual acts but also to become comfortable with these acts, thereby removing the taboo. Which is why we can speak about them so much more freely these days.

    Also, curious persons with supposedly “immoral desires” can jump online and see that there are hundreds, thousands, millions of people around the world (not just USA) who engage in said acts. So, as we are all mortal, if millions of us are engaging in acts which are bringing us pleasure without bring harm to anybody, how “immoral” are these acts? I’m sure this would be a question posed by and to the aforementioned individual with his or her arcane desires. We can deduce from this line of thinking this individual will at least try it out.

    We’ve become more exposed and as a result we are more open-minded as a society and willing to TRY new things. We won’t like everything, but at least will be more empowered in our own identities (sexual and otherwise). I think in this day an age most of us have this kind of conflict of information going on- Reality (Internet) vs. Religious (Bible) which source do you logically follow? If the Bible is right by default, then is the reality of what we do as a humans wrong? The way I see it some persons are more adventurous than some, you just have to know who YOU are, and what YOU like.

    To “Bun out” or “knock” someone is actually a waste of time and energy because there are billions of people in this world who are going to do as they please and not give a fuck, leaving Mr. I-Am-Jamaican-Who-Only-Has-Sex-In-The-Missionary-Position-For-Purposes-Of-Pro-Creation looking like an idiot, who has way too much time on his hands. If you like something, do it. If you don’t take advantage of all of the healthy pleasures presented in your God-given Life, that more than anything else would be immoral.

    Personally, I think anal sex is not hygienic, no matter how much preparation is made. But, if persons want to engage in it, go for it. I am confident I would not like anal sex (giving or receiving), but I don’t like stew peas either, and some people seem to like it. So…

    End of Rant.

    Thanks for your post, definitely made this last 30mins of work fly by. lol

    July 28, 2011 at 3:26 pm

    • This is unprecedented! This has got to be the longest comment in all of blog-dom. Wow. Thank you for your thoughts. Thank you so much 🙂

      August 4, 2011 at 1:25 am

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