From Oral to Anal : The Changing Sexual Culture in Jamaica
By now, we must have all heard of the types of sex that are to be had. There’s vaginal, oral, and though many Jamaicans would rather it not be said, there’s anal. Increasingly, the Jamaican population seems content with exploring all three aspects of sex. In fact, I’m surprised at how many of my friends are considering the taboos. That is, oral and anal sex. I don’t listen to the Raga show, but based on comments I’ve read and heard, it would appear that his callers, and someone told me these callers reflect the general society, are dishing out “batty washes” (the phenomenon of using one’s tongue to stimulate the anus), actively digesting semen, passionately sucking on penises and salivating at the thought of a wet vagina.
I never understood or accepted the extent to which Jamaica was sexually liberated until I joined social media such as Twitter. I was literally stunned at how many men were just tripping over themselves to admit they enjoyed vagina on their faces or tongue. Not to be outdone, it soon appeared that every other girl was a fan of penis swallowing. I remember the first time I tweeted “Vagina : The Breakfast of Champions”, purely out of mischief. Imagine my shock when it got some 15 RTs. Such is the extent of our liberalisation.
Where did this come from though? When did our sexually conservative society begin to morph into this liberal melting pot of sexual perversion? I don’t wish to offend anyone by calling these practices perversions, but in the context of our society, it kind of is. One answer says american culture. Yes, our neighbours up north have perhaps the most liberal sexual culture in the world. From them, we’ve gained confidence in sucking, licking, eating, swallowing, biting, exploring etc etc. You name it, we perhaps picked it up from them. I also believe that daggering as we’ve come to know and love it has lost it’s appeal. We’ve began to want more than the occasional “beat up” and “tump up”. Further, I think women, (Yes. I blame women.) have largely been the ones to suggest these perverse practices to men. Since the days of Adam and Eve, women have been leading men into taboo practices. They make it attractive and alluring.
“You gotta lick it before you stick it!”
Those kinds of ultimatums. Backing us men into a corner and saying, you can’t have the vajayjay unless you taste it. Faced with this very difficult choice, most men give in and decide to dine in. Vagina once again becomes a bargaining tool. The funny thing is that there are some among us who still maintain the conservative stance in public, but in private they completely lose themselves in these taboos. While they will go the extra mile with their woman, they will never proudly admit these taboos in public. If you’re a ashamed of it, should it be something you’re engaged in? Just a thought.
I have the perfect example though. I’m friends with a particular couple. We’ll call them Jack and Jill. So we’re all lounging around, Jack, Jill, myself and three others. We’re discussing sex and Jack has had a little to drink, out of no where he exclaims “Jah kno Jill, yuh batty tight enuh” – Needless to say, the silence that ensued was the mother of all silences. Liquor had made him confess to engaging in anal sex with his girlfriend. I wasn’t sure what would have been appropriate conversation after such an admission, so I remained silent for the duration of the evening. You see my point though? Had it not been for the liquor, we would never have known.
The next time you go “bunning out” something you know you engage in just to impress the dude beside you, consider that he could be Jack. He could be the Jack who enjoys a girl’s “tight batty” under the quiet. He could be the guy that salivates at thought of vagina, he could personify the girl who enjoys swallowing penis. You think about that. Think very carefully about that.
So what do you guys think? What’s to be blamed for our changing sexual culture?