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The Confessions of a Whore


Disclaimer : This is a true story concerning the exploits of a male prostitute. The events related may offend your conscience. If you are hyper – religious and or judgemental, you should close the tab now.

He’s unassuming. 5’11 he says, and mostly silent. He wears a fitted cap, a white v-neck tee, blue jeans and a pair of Adidas slippers. The awkward silence that hangs heavily is punctuated by the angry raindrops. There is nothing about his outward appearance that could possibly betray the tale he had come to tell Shanice* and I, he is a male whore.

When she told me she knew a guy that sold his body, I laughed. My response was, so what? All girls do, at least informally. Yes ladies, when men sleep with you and then you get your favourite pair of shoes or you get that little “allowance”; he’s saying “job well done, get yourself something nice.” (The only thing left for him to do is throw a dollar bill at you.) That makes you a prostitute in everything but name. Try a little independence. After all, the sex is payment enough.

But I digress.

I decided I wouldn’t speak during this “interview”, I’d allow Shanice to ask the questions, he was after all, her friend. I’d simply listen and record his version of events. The story began in high school. He says he made the Manning Cup team because “yow, mi love ball game enuh but nuh funds neva a run.” In fact, I got the distinct impression he joined the team so that he would benefit from the free lunch afforded to the footballers. He was merely 16 years old and wanted to go to the bar-b-que; he says he didn’t have the “funds” and his mother is “wukliss” – I understood this to mean she either couldn’t, or refused to give him the money he needed. What he said next stunned me.

“Pawdie, di likkle gyal bwoy dem ave money enuh. And caw mi waan roll a di BBQ, mi just mek dem feel like we deh.”

Basically, he had become an escort for these rich boys, his peers. He maintains he did not have sex with any of them and he says we should understand that he’s straight. I struggled not to speak. I had several questions. Chief among them, why didn’t you just stay home? Why betray your dignity just to attend a BBQ? But I held my tongue. I remained silent as he continued.

In my mind I directly attributed it to the society’s failure. That is, the culture of greed and quick gains we have cultivated. I believe this very culture creates some of the most impossible evils we face as a country. Gunmen, thieves, coke dealers. The works. Some of these youngsters take up weapons in furtherance of gaining a quick dollar, the long and hard road to success is no longer appealing. It was the same situation with Kevin*, he couldn’t sit still and wait until he could legitimately afford to attend the BBQ, he chose to sell his dignity.

By now the story had reached him having full blown sex with cougars. This he says, is the best. “Yow, dem spwile mi & all mi affi do a f@%k it erryday.” I didn’t even bother to ponder where these old women get the sex drive to have sex with a youngster everyday. He tells us that most, if not all of them were married. One in particular had a son his age, a son he became friends with. This caused me to wonder if the drive for the money had erased his conscience. I mean, gentlemen, how many of you could have sex with your friend’s mother, for money, and not even be remotely affected by it? And I want an honest answer, no “your momma” jokes. 😐

He next told of how he makes the “links” with these cougars. Apparently, if he sleeps with one and she enjoys it, she shares it with her peers; and he’s recommended to them. These include Bank Managers, Marketing Directors, CEO’s etc etc. A council of cougars, if you will. This is an opportune time to address the double standard in our society. If an older man takes to a younger girl, he’s condemned.

[See Skoolaz and Big Man : Wrong or Right?]

Yet we celebrate the younger guy older woman dynamic. This again is a fault of our society. We have taught our males that masculinity is defined by excessive sex and womanizing. We do not maintain a standard that tells our boys that just as it is to be frowned upon if a young girl dates an older guy, the same ought to obtain for the other way around. This obviously doesn’t happen. In fact, he claims his mother endorses his escapades with these older women, and his friends “big him up”. A glaring double standard.

Unable to keep quiet any longer, I blurted out “so how much do they pay you?” A sly smile plays across his face and he responds, “me decide dat and more while mi just tek wha mi waan.” I let this hang in the air for a minute. I briefly entertained the thought of getting a cougar. (I’m still thinking about it). 😐

Unfortunately, I had to leave before his tale was complete (blame Hazel) but as I left I wondered :

(1) Is there anything really wrong with what he’s doing? He technically isn’t breaking the law.

(2) His actions are consensual, is it really anybody’s business or place to condemn him?

(3) Is it that he really couldn’t do better? Or did greed and impatience force him to selling his body?

What do you think?

As I rose to leave, he did the thumb thing (you know the one where you flick thumbs?) Yeah, that. I briefly wondered when last those fingers and hand had been in an old woman’s vagina.

The rains continued to punctuate the silence.

*Names changed to protect identity.

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12 responses

  1. TinyDivaNas

    But u bright eeh! All girls do?! Look ya nuh, sar! *kick in chrote* I get offered b4 sex is even on d plate n I accept n refuse as I feel, all without sex bn had<_< Then when I'm in a relationship, there's an exchange of gifts or whatever. I'm d girl that gets cussed cuz I dn't wana take anything from a guy- n that's from guys I'm close to, not skallywags! Such a sweepin generalization is unfair n not respectful of women. Some never take from another- male or female n some cudn't get even if they wanted- some girl a try hard n naa get a red money, Sir Editor.
    As for the double standard u speak about, it exists n it is more frowned upon when a woman is with a younger man- don't let Hollywood fool u. This young man is with them in secret n it is kept on the low by groups of women who share the same secret. Society still makes cougars feel low. They have to say it's for the sex and even then, they get judged. They dare not get into committed r/ships lest they prepare for. The mockery that will ensue. N very few men are comfortable bn exclusive with an older woman- it's usually motivateby sex,money n it's usually short-term. A woman's sexual peak is around age 40 while a man's is around 25 so an older woman-younger man combo is what is biologically most ideal for sexual compatibility. U shud on it a little 🙂 Maybe I just took what I wanted from the info I perused.
    As for the law, his actual prostitution- persistently trying to solicitor or impetune another for immoral purposes – is not illegal (prostitution is not illegal. But it is not legal either) but his soliciting and living off the earnings of a prostitute is illegal (this was more to punish pimps than the prostitutes, I think. Maybe they were the core of the problem). Essentially,the act isn't illegalor the purpose isn't but once u fulfill the purpose n benefit, then it's illegal.
    Here ends my epistle

    June 25, 2011 at 10:30 am

  2. Scott

    lol .. no man mi a dead with this .. “As I rose to leave, he did the thumb thing (you know the one where you flick thumbs?) Yeah, that. I briefly wondered when last those fingers and hand had been in an old woman’s vagina.” Well nothing nuh wrong with it tho because he aint doing anything wrong.. maybe morally but that is as far as it goes.

    June 25, 2011 at 11:27 am

  3. wow you can write…i didnt agree with a few things but i loved your writting. I couldnt find anything wrong with either grammar, structure nor mechanics. Great job!

    June 25, 2011 at 11:40 am

  4. Neller

    seems like nella missing out on alot cause im the chick who doesnt want a guy to buy me things yeah me have too much pride and me nuh wah cause him buy me di TORCH today and tomorrow him wah jump inna me hole and me tell him no him come tek e back (me and him woulda fight tho) but its actually the norm for both boys and girls to use sex to get things nowadays whether it be the latest BB or to get into an all inclusive party and from my opinion its wrong but who am i to say ntn, well then again if u deh wid a man/woman and unuh a bash and him/her nah buy u things a waste fuck or u nah seh ntn. On the other hand society needs to cut out this double standard shit its wrong for males to date younger girls so it should be wrong for a woman to date a younger dude but like i said who am i to say ntn. I think w/e you want in life you should work for it and I’m not talking work as in bed room wise….get a 9-5 whether its working in an office, serving behind the counter at mother’s or sweeping the streets at the end of the day ya pride and dignity still gonna be there……h’enyways wid dat said #BigUp all who affi fuck fi go inna parties free and affi a do things fi get the latest BB yeah i see yall

    June 25, 2011 at 12:29 pm

  5. (Y) it was a good read. in my opinion, an old guy dating a young chick is worse than an older woman with a young guy, but maybe i’ve just been brainwashed by society. it seems to be simalr to the whole female raping a male scenario. it’s sad however that persons have to sink to the level of sex/prostitution [when they hardly realize it] solely for monetary gain..maybe there are just no other options…. but cudos to you for the interview..watch your back tho..he might want to come look for u =p

    June 25, 2011 at 12:46 pm

  6. G

    …. maybe I missed something in the patois… how much is he earning??
    I’d do a Milf/ cougar. Don’t know if i could do it for money, an Audi and an apartment uptown, visa sort out.

    June 25, 2011 at 1:56 pm

  7. Louise

    Interesting read and very well written. I’m not entirely sure myself if his actions are morally questionable or not…but a quick dollar is always more attractive than a slow one. I’m just saying.

    June 25, 2011 at 10:50 pm

    • I agree with you, fast money is always more attractive and I’m happy you enjoy my writing 🙂

      June 26, 2011 at 1:24 am

  8. I see ur point … Both men and women are swapping gifts/money/time for whatever they want in a relationship. so i guess everybody is just whoring themselves out for some form of love and affection. meh … oh well

    i suppose we cant ever know why he was so compelled to go to the BBQ. we dont know what desires were/are so ingrained in him that gratification needed to be instant. i cant say if its wrong or right but it seems to suit him. and as long as he is happy then thats what counts for him. i mean, he probably scoffs at the rest of us who have regular jobs and cant acquire the things he can in the time that he can.

    i dont think the double standard thing will ever be erase. men will always be measured by virility so being with a younger woman will always be praised. my views on the matter of age difference is that is it starts to reach a gap where the people in the relationship could be mistaken for parent/child then its gone way too far. but to each is own. as long as the participants are comfortable with what they are doing then its their business.

    June 26, 2011 at 7:22 am

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