Masturbation : Why Is It Taboo?
Gentlemen, sometimes we’re not even thinking about sex and we spring the casual erection; you know the kind you get when you’re in class and bored and out of no where you get hard? The kind you have to use your bag to cover as you move from class to class? Yeah, that kind. You might stroke it…once…twice…three times…
Ladies, picture it; you’ve just showered, you’re naked and there is a cool, gentle wind. It plays across your nipples and at that point the heat rises in you. Out of no where, thoughts of sex plague your mind. Your hand might roam south, detecting moistness, a finger finds it’s way inside…
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is masturbation.
The ancient art of bringing one’s self to climax by stimulating the sexual organs. This can be done with a partner, (mutual masturbation), or with yourself and some good porn. Some of us are gifted with extraordinary imaginations and therefore can conjure up elaborate narratives in our minds, usually involving someone we have no chance with in reality. (I sure know I have…wait, did I just suggest I masturbate? Well, no. I don’t. 🙂 )
This isn’t about me though.
Like oral sex, albeit not as severe, masturbation is considered taboo in our Jamaican culture. Young men who choose to engage in this are usually ostracised and ridiculed. Female masturbation is rarely even spoken about. I don’t think we believe females even do it. I’ve heard comments of “a nasty gyal dat”, clearly in our minds, girls don’t, or shouldn’t, masturbate. It’s a male sport, if you will. I’m slowly realizing that’s a myth though, as several of my female friends do actually masturbate. And love it, might I add.
I think that in our highly sexualized culture, where so much emphasis is placed on being a “gallis”, it is inconceivable that a guy would shun vagina and opt to bring himself to pleasure. How could he? We glorify sex and the more of it you’ve had, the higher your props. Could it be that because males are expected to be “man whores” and women are expected to be pure? decent? one man kind of girl?, it is expected that the decent young lady would never insert any foreign object in her vagina? And that’s what makes her nasty? While the man should be having actual sex so masturbation also makes him nasty? Am I making any sense? I’m not sure. It was just a fleeting thought. It must be because we expect everyone to be having sex why we consider masturbation taboo. Do you have any other reason why we might?
You know, there are even males who claim they have NEVER masturbated? Despite studies that show that all males, at one point or another, have in fact done so?
I think I’d be quicker in believing a girl who says she has never as opposed to a guy. I’m not sure why. Maybe I’m one of them who think it isn’t for girls.
And of course, we must discuss the dearly beloved christian faith.
The christian faith requires abstinence until marriage from all those who profess to be followers of Christ. (A task more than half fail at). Is this realistic though? In a world saturated by sex and desire, can a person be reasonably expected to abstain? And if they do, should they be barred from the one form of release available to them? Masturbation. I’ve actually read several conflicting positions on masturbation as it relates to the christian faith. I’ve read that it is indeed a sin because it causes lust and carnal desire, which is sinful. (rolls eyes) Isn’t ‘desire’ a normal human… emotion? And isn’t it unnatural to ask a human being to deny an innate feeling? On the other hand, I have read that masturbation is permissible as it eases the strain of abstinence. It is indeed a great theological debate. What says you? Do you think Christians should be allowed to masturbate?
Finally, I don’t see what’s so wrong with masturbation, if it’s done in moderation. (Studies show that an addiction to masturbation may cause a person to be unable to enjoy actual sex with someone else). Still, sex isn’t always available. For some, sex isn’t even an option. So why shouldn’t we masturbate?
I say back it, finger it, jack it, stroke it, stimulate it and love it! Masturbation ought not to be taboo.