Un-following and Deleting People on Social Media : A Big Deal?
Ever since the days of Facebook, deleting someone has been a big deal. Believe it or not, I’ve seen real friendships ruined because a virtual friendship was terminated. Similarly, I’ve seen people “hate” others for rejecting a friend request or more recently if they refused a request to follow on Twitter. Since the advent of Twitter, this has become an even greater issue. But why though? Why is this such a big deal?
I have a theory.
The sad truth is many of us who use social media, such as Facebook and Twitter, take them very seriously. There are instances where persons genuinely feel that their importance can be measured by the amount of people who follow them or the amount of “friends” they have on Facebook. Strange huh? It’s true though. There are people on my timeline who take pleasure in saying they can reject someone from following them and mock others for having “likkle bit a follawers”. This clearly shows they feel they have some amount of importance based on the count of their followers. It’s so bad, people have resorted to ‘dissing’ others so as to gain momentum and popularity. Yup. It happens. We can’t forget those who just blatantly make up things to fit in with a particular crowd or “fi get a fawwud”. Ooo! I spoke ghetto! How quaint. 🙂
The result of taking these social media platforms so seriously is that we are offended when those who we rely on to validate our importance, shun us by un-following or deleting. I mean, if you feed my ego and then suddenly decide to stop, I’d be pretty pissed.
This, of course, is just a part of a larger problem; the problem of how much of ourselves we invest in these social media platforms. The first thing many of us do each morning, myself included, is to check Twitter. Any mentions? Any replies? Follower requests? Did anyone like my status on Facebook? What about that photo I uploaded from the party? Who commented? I wonder what’s Michelle’s relationship status? I can literally see many of your squirming right now. You know it’s true. Or am I exaggerating the situation?
Still though, the issue of un-following and deleting is a big deal for many. Is BBM social media? It is, isn’t it? Well, I’ve taken grave offence to being deleted from BBM. In fact, I once unfollowed and blocked someone who deleted me from BBM, only to learn to deletion was not intentional. Could this be because we perhaps think that some of these people actually like us? As in, they followed and made friends with us, doesn’t that mean something? To have and to hold? Till no BB service and no internet do us part? No? It isn’t that serious? So why do we take such offence then? Why do we ‘cuss out’ those who exercise their right to control who they interact with on social media?
What do you guys think? Is it a big deal for you? Do you care? Had any experiences where someone took it seriously? Or you couldn’t care less? Talk to me.
This entry was posted on May 5, 2011 by Mr. Editor. It was filed under Entertainment & Culture, Personal and was tagged with BBM, Deleting, Facebook, Social Media, Social Networks, Twitter, Un-following.