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Skoolaz and Big Man : Wrong Or Right?‏

So at one point or another we all must have come across a situation of the school girl who dates an older gentleman. Naturally, most of us frown upon any such relationship; arguing it is inappropriate and as my friend would say, “dem (the older men) mus mek di likkle pickni dem blossom good.” Still, I’ve been thinking, are these relationships always “wrong” or “inappropriate”? Could there be some amount of correctness? And still yet, could these young girls and older men have justifications for their actions?

My grandma would always say “before you judge, try to understand.” So what are the possible causes of these relationships? Poverty? Greed? A Need for Hype? Possibly all three? Most of our young girls, especially in the inner city, don’t come from stable financial backgrounds and yet they want to live the “high life”. They need the latest fashion and accessories to live up to the expectation of their peers, and the common saying is “school bwoy lunch money done 12 o’clock!” So it seems only natural that these young girls would gravitate towards a man that can maintain them. Is something wrong with that? If yes, what? What about the parents? There are parents who turn a blind eye to these relationships because it eases the financial burden. Often times these men support the entire household because he’s having sex with the daughter. Why don’t we properly consider that prostitution though? Or a mother pimping her daughter? Surely there is something seriously wrong with that. The young girls have also complained that guys their age are too immature. They claim these young boys “chat too much!, if mi gi him, him affi tell him fren dem!” Is this true fellas? Is your mouth chattering away? Can’t keep the secret that you got the vajayjay?

What about these older men? What motivates them to sleep with 13, 14 and 15 year olds? Is it that they lack the confidence necessary to attract women their age? Small dicks? Impotent? Or is it that the young girls can be easily manipulated and so they have their way with them far easier? Arguably, the young girls are “cheaper” to maintain. After all, $5000 to a 13 year old must seem like a fortune. Why do we condemn these men for sleeping with a 14 or 15 year old and yet the law endorses them sleeping with a 16 year old? I find it morally objectionable! And as far as I’m concerned, if they can sleep with a 16 year old, a 15 year old is fair game. Yup, I said it! What exactly qualifies a 16 year old to make a considered decision as to whether or not they are ready for sex? Aren’t they susceptible to the same immaturity that plagues the 15 year old? I’m willing to bet they are.

There is a certain hypocrisy in our society when we consider the reverse. That is, the older woman, younger guy relationship. The old man who sleeps with a young girl is a pervert, right? And the older woman who sleeps with a younger guy is a what? A cougar. How nice. Bullshit! If there is something wrong with an older man sleeping with a young girl then the reverse has to be the same. Both must be condemned. We can’t hold the men to one standard and the women to another. I submit to you that if you think one is wrong, that must extend to the other. The causes and reasoning is probably the same right? Well, except the older women probably want a young stud…BUT… what if they older men want something tight and moist? (Let’s face it, a dry vagina is absolutely a “dick killer”) I’m just saying. What if?

I’m honestly not sure how I feel about the wrongness or rightness of it all. Afterall, whatever we feel about it all, we surely can understand that sometimes it becomes a necessary evil. Like it or not, that’s the reality. Perhaps you guys can help me decide. The Skoolaz & Big Man : Wrong Or Right?


7 responses

  1. Christina

    Hmhmhmhm very interesting article. I think it’s totally wrong. These men must guh look dem size and low the children dem. I wonder if dem have any sensitivity towards this factor too? What if someone should take advantage of their daughter like that in the future? Hhmhmm…. N it has to do with everything too, mostly with how parents raise dem children. Jamaicans too gravalicious and always want the easy way out. Most a dem trying to live up other people expectations, wanna live above their means and young girls are extremely pressured nowadays. I doubt that these things would happen if parents actually set example and validate their children.

    March 19, 2011 at 9:33 pm

  2. I Honestly cannot give a good comment on this so i will just give you a round of applause *round of applause*

    March 19, 2011 at 9:55 pm

  3. Karim

    Ok where the hell are the parents of these 13 year olds?!? Are the situations in those family’s that horrible for them to turn their daughters and rare cases sons into the sex slaves for these perverted adults? I find it unacceptable for these girls to be engaging in such activities with men 2 and even 3 decades their seniors. As it relates to these cougars – doesn’t a woman say 50, for example, who enters into a sexual relationship with a 20 some year old man think- hey this kid could be my son?!?

    These “adults” need to check themselves! If you are willing to date someone or even have sex with someone that could be your child, YOU ARE A PERVERT!

    March 20, 2011 at 10:32 am

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